Like mother, like daughter…

The other day, while I was listening to Mama’s light hearted chat about various aspects of her ongoing corporeal decay, she suddenly broke off and assumed an alarming air of gravity.

“Now tell me,” she said, fixing me with a steely gaze and causing me to brace myself for something potentially worrying. Fortunately, her question was quite harmless and I was able to unbrace myself and finish swallowing my mouthful of tea immediately. “How did you get your, your…er, your hearing aids?” she said. “Are they from the NHS?”

I thought she was taking an interest in my hearing, but it turned out that she thought she might need hearing aids herself and wanted to know how to go about getting them. I was delighted to have an opportunity to share my comprehensive knowledge of NHS audiology referral procedures, but wasn’t sure whether it would be needed. Knowing Mama’s lifelong propensity for poking cotton buds into her ear canals, the description of her current hearing loss sounded rather more like a bad case of earwax, so I advised her to get her ears checked by her GP. While I was talking, I noticed her leaning worryingly from side to side in her notoriously unstable motorised armchair, and I wondered what she was doing.

“Have you got two? Have you got them in just now?” she said, squinting unsuccessfully at each side of my distant head, before correcting herself. “Oh, silly me!” she tutted,  “Of course you’ve got them on, you’d need to be wearing them to get the cheap train ticket.”

I marvelled at the pensioner logic that stated I had hearing aids for the purpose of getting a discount on the train, rather than to hear things, and noted that here was yet another great thing about hearing loss I’d overlooked. I could even extend Mama’s logic to reassert my superiority when licking my wounds in bad hearing situations. The next time someone annoyed me by saying, “It’s really noisy in here, you’re lucky you can take your hearing aids out!”, I could say “Lucky I can take them out? Lucky? Pah! That’s absolutely nothing compared to the 1/3 off discount on the train for hearing aid users! Put that in your pipe and smoke it, if you think hearing loss is some kind of disadvantage!”

Mama was already in possession of a pensioner railcard, therefore didn’t need a visible pair of hearing aids to get a discount on the train.

“If it was me, I’d want the tiny wee ones that go right inside your ears”, she announced, doing an unconscious mime of how she imagined putting them in would go. She missed out the bit where you drop them on the floor several times, before treading on them by accident. Having witnessed her arthritic dexterity when narrowly avoiding slicing through the power supply cable of the electric carving knife she was using to attack a tomato at lunchtime, I decided I had to convince her that microscopic hearing aids might not be the best idea.

“You know,” I said, assuming an air of great authority, “behind the ear ones are much easier to handle if you’re ol…” I noticed a white eyebrow raise, and changed tack by adding, “personally, I don’t give a stuff about what they look like any more.”

“I can see that”, said Mama, making sure I wasn’t getting too big for my daughterly boots. She had another quick glance at my head before adding for good measure, “it’s probably a good thing you’re only able to see them from the front.”

4 Responses to “Like mother, like daughter…”

  1. 1 Melinda September 10, 2014 at 4:40 pm

    Which heAring aids do you have and are they helpful for this type of hearing loss? I’m struggling so much with mine and don’t know what to do. Thx!

    • 2 moiradancer September 10, 2014 at 5:08 pm

      Hi Melinda, sorry you’re struggling, it’s quite overwhelming and frustrating when the aids don’t give you what you need. The aids I’ve got are Oticon Spirit Zest, which are decent mid-range aids supplied by the NHS. You basically get what you’re given by the NHS, so I’ve nothing to compare them with, but they do the job for me in good listening conditions, although in the kind of background noise I’ve got in the work environment, I lose much of the benefits, and am arguably better off aidless at times because my overall loss is relatively mild. I’m no expert, but I think I would struggle with any aid in the noise I’m subjected to. So much depends on the severity of your loss and the conditions that you live/work in, that the most important part of the equation is having an audiologist/ fitter who understands cookie bite loss and can take the time to work with you.

      How long have you had your aids and what are the biggest problems?

      • 3 Melinda September 10, 2014 at 5:26 pm

        What you describe is exactly my experience with background noise. I’ve had in the ear aids for 5 years now and have struggled with the closed up feeling and high pitch as well as recruitment. I’m trying a pair of receiver in canal now and the best fit for my loss just doesn’t seem to be helping in open environments or noisy areas with a the background noise. If I purchase these I will have about 14k invested. Although I’ve been aware mine is a cookie bite loss I’m just now realizing how rare it is a how difficult. My audiologist has been very patient but whenever we tweek them it seems to affect something else. It’s so frustrating. I feel like a knife has been jabbed in my ear. Thx.

      • 4 moiradancer September 11, 2014 at 4:13 pm

        You’re obviously an experienced ha user Melinda, and after 5 years I can see why it’s left you feeling frustrated. I can totally sympathise with being demoralised by the tweaks which cause a knock-on negative effect which make one reluctant to change anything else. I think the background noise problem is probably the holy grail of hearing aid technology. Depending on what you need the aids for and where you use them, there might be some assistive listening solutions which can help, but I must say I’ve got no experience of using them myself (yet) because of a variety of variables in my own working environment, but I’d love to try some things out if I can find the energy to pursue it. Might also be worth asking your audiologist if the rep for the brand of hearing aids you have could give advice, if they haven’t already tried that. You definitely shouldn’t be having to put up with anything which borders on painful.

        Sorry I can’t offer much more than sympathy because I don’t have any expert knowledge, but I do hope you get some improvement in at least some situations. Do keep us posted…

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.


Blog Stats

  • 184,132 hits

%d bloggers like this: